FOREPLAY .................and HYGIENE.

          Hygiene is very important to me cos I hate foul smells and dirt..As human beings we are bound to generate some off smells and also gather some dirt on our clothes,surroundings and person ...especially on our private areas..armpits,breath, vagina, between our legs,up our backsides,behind our ears... navels are most of the 'areas' that special attention should be paid. ...the worse thing that can happen to a person is being intimate with someone who is not hygienic. .eeeeeewwwwww!!! is what my 3year old mini-me would say!..yes,even at that age she is very neat ..knows her way to the garbage bin like nobody's business..she knows where dirty clothes go,washes her hands when they are dirty and even after she visits the loo..speaking of which ,how many adults do that?!...it's like thrice out of every tenth visit to the john .
      Sometimes I marvel how a three year old is so organised and I remind myself it was us who taught her..kids really copy what u do and charity definitely does begin at home!..what I really hate is 'skid marks'..when a guy or woman doesn't wipe well after a bowel movement,what do u get?.. disgusting skid marks on your undies!..the trick is to use wipes or have a bath..wash behind the ears anytime you bath..clean out the the navel,inside the ears... foreplay  doesn't restrict you..your partner is given full access to your body..your clothes should be neat and freshly-smelling..some sweet smelling scent on the body is a plus.. the raw clean natural smell of a man (that's how I like it!) can also take you places !. .I'm not talking about body odor ..oh he'll no!...I'm not talking about sweaty off-smelling hair...I love to cuddle so my man's got to smell clean atleast!...those women who trick men by spraying their vaginal-area with all kinds of sprays should STOP. .it's unhealthy and it's deceitful!
      Most guys have complained to me about their women having stinking weave-ons..women don't keep your weaves on till you get back your money's worth!.. that shit is a serious turn off for men..some men like the raw clean smell of women too..without artificial scents and perfumes..women also want their men to smell clean..neat undies is key..most men lament on how they are surprised when they are about to go down on some women..if you want a man to give u head u certainly have to consider his sense of smell ..women take a while to be aroused and foreplay is very essential to that...lots or foreplay..most men are ignorant of that fact or they just don't care..they kiss u,or rather they peck at your lips like some cockerel..some guys kiss like they are chewing wele (cackling to my abrofo friends)!
       Some kiss like they wana suck your lips right off your face!..they squeeze your breasts like they are milking a cow...stick their finger up your vagina like they are digging for for gold..then stick their penis in and thrust once,twice and come. ..and roll over and sleep!...'wham,bam, thank u madam' syndrome!...so most women feel so sexually deprived..lots of woman don't know what an orgasm is...they are so in the dark. .men don't need much to get aroused and they can get their 'happy-ending' from any 'receptacle'..they should learn to be considerate of their partner's sexual needs. If a woman is well aroused with some serious foreplay,the final sexual penetration is not really such a big deal because they are already halfway to orgasm-land!..and the women who just lie there inert like some log or dead fish should wake up!..and bring the roof down!
     Lovemaking is an art and when 'acted ' out well the results can be beautiful and mind-blowing!.it is like dancing with a receptive and participating partner..it starts from the conversation leading to the meeting..phone sex!..ooooohhh!!!...it stimulates your senses and readies the physical body for the final penetration. .it's not rushed except you're going for a quickie  (that's another topic for another day..but then again knowing myself I might bring it up again in this write-up!)!...getting ready for the 'date' also psychologically uplifting..have a bath..a proper cleaning up..from clean hair to nails,keep nails short and filed, and dirt-free..scrub under your breasts well...ladies keep your hair neat (well-coiffed ) and nice-smelling..shave your pits ,vagina area,legs,..some people like the animalistic side of sex ..i call it JUNGLE SEX ...to each his own!
        Back to the date! ..brush your teeth,check your breath..when dressing up..don't wear dirty undies,no sweat-stained brassieres..don't wear  smelly shoes..men,don't wear undies with holes in them!..check your breaths too...kissing a foul-smelling mouth is suicidal! ....and I avoid it!..when you are kissing try to find a 'balance' between both lips..let your lips lock naturally. .and be patient!..cause every one kisses differently. .hold your partner's head gently in your hands and kiss with passion..you can close your eyes..or open them..chale anything that tickles your fancy!. no holds-barred!..kissing of the neck,breasts (some men love that too..to be kissed on the nipples and breasts!),fondle her breasts firmly but gently..explore each other's bodies thoroughly...and be perceptive and 'listen' to your partner's responses or lack of  them!
       When performing fellatio,ladies please remember you've got teeth!..so be gentle..go read about it if you don't know how!..some men looovveee 'tea-bagging'...ladies you might wana try that!..men don't give head as if you're chewing a khebab!..the vagina is a sensitive 'organ'.. learn to listen to your partner's responses and protests and act accordingly...yes i am repeating that bit!..it is very necessary! .ask questions..don't be selfish. .you have to be completely involved...be experimental..lots of woman,especially ignorant ones in Africa have no idea about how to 'ride' a man..there are lots of karma-sutra books and videos for your perusal..know your partner and what their sexual interests are and meet them halfway. .
       We learn everyday..knowledge is never-ending...thanx to the internet lots of information is easily accessible. Sex/making love is one of the few pleasures in life...and it should be explored to it's full heights!..it's a combination of physical and mental desires...foreplay is about 80%(well that is what I feel!)...who else agrees or disagrees should please leave a comment at the end of the article..thanx for reading!..shalom!