'Red' stands for so many things...it's a #color;it's a 'funeral color' mostly in African countries...some people 'see red ' before they go off on your ass !... it's the color of the #female reproductive organ (the clitoris is anyway!) which makes it very intriguingly intriguing!..I'm sure someone will like to see it as a pinkish shade rather but for the purpose of this write-up I'm going with 'red'!. let me try and be a little technical here...the vagina actually is the insides of the female organ and not the outer part...then the outer part is the hymen...then there are the pubic hairs surrounding it..the vaginal location and structure varies from each woman..so #men stop thinking you have answers to why she is 'wide' or 'loose'..most times it is just how she is 'structured' biologically..one wonders why the vagina feels so much sensation when touched..it gets wet and throbs..have u taken a good look at the #vagina?a really good look?have u felt its sort of 'stretchy ' muscles?have u pulled at it and watched it snap back?yes,it does snap back cos the skin is kinda elastic...try it now and see...I'll wait...maybe I'll try it again on myself whiles waiting for u!..*wink wink*...you see how it feels spongy and gummy? Open up the #labia wide with your fingers and look inside..what do you see ?....I know right!...that's where a woman's 'power' is!..just kidding..women are worth much more than what's between their thighs!..they should be,if only they'll give themselves the chance to empower themselves ..'the #power of the pussy' is a phrase I've always heard from men...what does it really mean?..is it that whenever a man sees a woman, his brain ceases to function and all he wants is to have #sex with her?well,most men have said to me that that's what really happens to them...hmmmm!..the first thing most men think when they see a woman is to imagine how she would look like in bed..with him ofcos!..i am not a man so I am just repeating what lots of men tell me...the truthful ones at least..the sly men just tell you things like 'i love u' and 'you are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen' bla bla bla...it works half the time and the woman finds herself feeling shortchanged after she has had sex with him and he disappears!.. men always wonder why a woman feels upset when they've had sex and nothing else follows after that..he feels it was a mutual decision so why are u mad at him?..it is just that any woman who shows you her nakedness and lets you have sex with her did it cos she trusted you not cos you did some magic no one has ever seen before!
I wish I could be a man for a minute so I could look at a 'red clitoris' and experience what they feel..how they re-act mentally..how they re-act physically. ..how they re-act emotionally...how they view us the #opposite sex...that would be an experience I think!..I say 'i think' cos I've been a woman all my life and I'm not sure how it would feel to be a man...i wouldn't know if it'll be a scary or mind-blowing experience!. .I still would wana have that #experience though, seeing as men and their ways confuse me everyday and I'll wana know why!..the idea is so daunting. .the fear of the unknown! ..in the next life I'm 'coming ' back as a man..I always joke about that but maybe it might happen so I get to satisfy my curiosity.I'm sure almost every female on this planet will agree with me..or atleast on the 'men always confusing us women' bit and not necessarily the 'coming back as a man' bit .. even though i am a woman i have always been intrigued by the vagina..i will like to know what a man sees when they come into contact with it..what he thinks..what he feels..how hard or easy is it for him to choose to hit it or back off..i have only mine to look at and examine and live with so i could be in #danger of thinking every woman's vagina is the same..that was what i used to think in the past anyway..women do not sit and examine their vaginas and take notes...it is not a common social activity...they can compare and feel each other's breasts though..to know thew different types of vaginas i have to read more professional books..it is very helping in terms of understanding yourself better as a woman..how not to feel strange if your vagina looks different from others..how to be hygienic before,during and after your periods,after sex etc...just how to be generally neat on a daily basis.
Women are very fragile in every way you can think of...I know men are fragile too but they 'hide' it...cos they've been trained to 'be a man' and not be soft...when a man shows emotion he's branded weak or 'feminine-like'...it's a wonder most men manifest their responses to some female provocation in either a violent or aggressive re-action...by beating her up...by belittling her efforts with abusive words and lack of appreciation. ..if only men are 'allowed' to 'talk'....when I say 'talk' I dont mean just having a normal convo. .I mean baring your soul to another human being about your emotions without any fear of retribution nor stigmatization..I rember when we lost a cousin last year..it was an emotionally painful experience and everyone was shedding years at her funeral except for our close male family members and her 14year old son...I was thinking he would break down in uncontrollable tears when he had to read his tribute to her and I was worried for him..but he read it without showing any emotion..I never saw him cry nor even look #sad...that really bothered me cos I knew he was suffering from the effect of her loss..he and his mum were inseparable! ..yet he wasn't 'allowed' by society to show emotion...that's really some feat!..I dunno how they do it mehn!...it's very worrisome...it's so bad you can't talk to a man cos they see women as all about emotions..so get this,they can't talk you and you (the ' red clitoris) can't talk to them cos they've become inaccessible..I don't think most men aware that that's the case...they dunno how to handle their own emotions and so ofcos they dunno how to handle a woman's emotions...they can't give what they 'don't have'..
There have been a coupla men I've liked a lot (still do ) but cos of this thingy, things have been left hanging and unsaid.. and it's sad...it's like you're afraid to show your emotions to them for fear of being seen as too 'emotional'...sigh. ...I wonder if men go thru this same 'struggle' of wanting to bare your soul but you have to hold back...you bottle up your #feelings and it eats you up inside. .everyone wants to love and be loved but no one wants to be vulnerable. ...do you agree?..e.g. is when a woman has her period (red again!)...it can be a traumatizing experience,believe it or not (this bit goes to the men cos they've never experienced it)...some women have symptoms so bad they have to be admitted at the hospital literally every month..I've had a coupla bad incidents where I spent a whole day at the hospital on drips cos the pain,tho always bad every month,was crippling this time around! ...chale! ...#common menstrual symptoms are PMS.. where you are irritated by everything and anyone for the last few days before your #period starts..our men should be extra sensitive to our moods during this time..it's really hard for us..well,it is hard for me!..I sometimes experience tender nipples so imagine if a guy is grabbing pulling at them like he's milking a cow !....and you protest and he's not 'hearing' you cos the men say a woman's 'no' actually means a 'yes'!..ebei !..most women have very heavy flow,including myself and it incapacitates us..for me I can't even go anywhere for fear of soiling my clothes or worse dripping on the floor...or messing up someone's car,which almost happened!..chale man has suffered!..
My first bad experience was when I went for a meeting at Guinness Ghana limited,whom I eventually worked for for a coupla years...the meeting which I assumed will last for like an hour took the whole day...and I just had a couple of sanitary pads with me..by late afternoon when I decided to visit the john I realized my undies which was a lime green color had turned 'black' with the flow..and I'd run out of pads...omg!..I improvised with tissue,threw the destroyed shapewear in the bin,left my drawers on ..yea ,I was wearing both when I left home...heheheheh...then went back to the meeting...when I got there a cleaner was cleaning my flow off the floor with a mop...I went crimson (red again!) with embarrassment. .what my new friend I made that day, told me was, I had dripped when I stood up..wow...and I didn't even realize it..but she told the cleaner-guy someone cut herself, hence all that #blood..thanx again Dzifa Smith(former host of The late night celeb show)...I will never forget what u did...i just took a cab home that moment..girls abr3!...I have soiled myself many a time in my friends' houses and i have had to wash my clothes...all men,cos i make friends easily with men than with women..i have just a coupla close female friends(Jayne Ajaab I see u!)...to all the guys who helped me,you know yourselves,thanx again for sorting a #sister out!..you all rock!
Some other PMS symptoms are farting incessantly(I do!), throwing up,having diarrhea,bloating (cos you retain water)...then during the menstruation proper I experience heavy continuous #pain for days...and your #emotions and hormones are all over the place!...in times like these is when you'll be grateful to have a male touch on your body...not for sex abeg!..just to cuddle...he should give me a warm bath or even bath with me!...I will like to be held with no sexual expectation..I'll like to see a man achieve that!. .I'm sure some guys can manage that..guys,U can, right?...men should be encouraged to show their sensitive side..stop trying to be 'macho' cos it doesn't fly with us koraa..women should let them do so without making the men feel weak...and men please be susceptible to us...allow us to be 'emotional' without any cringing on your part...I have an old friend who would #drive me nuts all the time....whenever I go off on him and rave and rant for awhile and I'm spent, he would look at me and say 'i didn't get anything you said from all of that'!!!!...ouch!...and i thought i was making sense....talking calmly and all....ah well,I guess with time men will allow themselves to 'feel' and be 'felt'...women,let's keep our fingers crossed! ...thanx for reading!...#shalom #gaylesgifts
