FATHERS' DAY MESSAGE

....Being a man is not easy not to talk of being a father..men are physically the strongest of the human species..They are supposed to represent #strength,#comfort,#security, #protection and #support hence the phrase 'man is the head of the home'....sometimes they take that 'role' too seriously ...so they feel they are entitled to certain benefits from women without having to earn it..some men take advantage of that and physically assault their women as a means of controlling and suppressing them but that doesn't 'make you a man'..walking away from any situation that will push you to hit a woman can prevent a lot of harm..i know women are complicated(as men choose to refer to us!),and hard to figure out but we are #compassionate and loving ..it is hard to #understand what you dont know so let's learn to adapt.
     Women also have the same dilemma concerning men,we think they are #complicated too..i know more often than not our men feel 'attacked' by women and feel unappreciated and pressured by us to do more or act in a certain way,it's just cos we love them and crave their love..I do love men.believe me!..'b33ma 33nsu' literally translated, 'men don't cry' is a phrase we hear all the time..so they don't show their emotions..makes them come accross as cold beings. .as unfeeling and insensitive..but I heard the other day men are the most emotional of the human race...amazing,right?!..when a man becomes a father he finds himself completely responsible for the welfare of another human being..he has the help of the baby's mother ofcos but men are the providers of the home so they bear the brunt of the financial responsibility. .some men do change diapers,bottle-feed, bath the baby etc and when they start growing teach them how to be independent. .some men are good cooks, they clean,are better than some women at executing house chores..oh yes they are!.I know alot..some men are better at playing the role of mothers than some women themselves .
     It's not every woman who has the 'mother genes' so alot fail at being proper mums to their children..on the flip side some men have no #business fathering a child/children..well any man can father a child but it takes a real man to be a daddy..I know lots of women who abandoned their children leaving the dads to raise them and they did a fantastic job!..kudos to them!..parents are the first #contact of the human race of children from when they are born and #absorb everything they see them doing..they are their first #teachers so we need to set good examples for them to emulate..the first #man i got to know was my dad so my idea of love and affection was experienced from him..whether good or bad children transfer these experiences into their relationships with other people because their parents are seen as their heros..i didnt live with my dad for long and i miss that warmth of having a father's influence till this day.
      Nowadays things have changed for the worse..#parents don't have time for their children because both parents have a #career..years ago women were predominantly housewives and devoted all their time and #energy to nurturing and raising their children..now that role has been left to #househelps and strangers and internet and technology ..oh yes,babies as young as a year old can operate mobile fons and tablets..they know all the games on there,all the apps,features, they know your password..I'm speaking from firsthand experience. .and mind you they know the difference between a toy fon and a real one so don't even think of deceiving them with any fake gadget..they don't play with toys no more..oh how I miss those days of 'ampe',oware (I still have mine), ludo,playing house,cooking with cooking utensils made out of tin,playing in the sand and getting lice !.
       Speaking of lice where did they all disappear to?I don't see children of today with lice in their hair..really weird..I have my own crazy experiences with lice..you could scratch ur scalp for hours like someone possesed just to get some relief from those unrelentless tiny bloodsuckers!. .then there was my mum's remedy for lice ..melted nkuto (shea Butter to my abrofo friends!) and ground camphor mixture rubbed in the hair and scalp with a tightly wrapped scarf was a nightly ritual we hated because it was so uncomfortable ! It burned and you could feel the little buggers running arround under the scarf trying to resist the deadly effects of the mixture..it's really funny thinking about it now..lol...in the mornings we would comb out the millions of dead lice onto an outspread newspaper and the feeling of triumph and victory over the lice was complete!...i had a few embarrassing situations as a result of having lice as a child because my uniform was white,and some school mates would pick them off of my white shirt and hand them to me publicly!..chale...the lice were so much that till today i have nightmares sometimes that i still got them..but I'll have the 'lice experience' again in a heart beat!..because that was my childhood and it was priceless !.let's give our children memorable childhood experiences again..let them get dirty and free..let them dance in the rain like I still do even today!.
            #fathers and men,help and love women because we can't do it without you..women need men and Vice versa..happy #fathers day to my men ,Nii Ayi Tagoe,Gideon Aryeequaye,William Nanka-Bruce III,George Boakye,Godson Laryea,Kojo Oppong,Kwame Monney,Michael Anthonio,Anthony Archie Nana Essel,Peter Wilson,Real Kgee,Praye Choirmaster Honeho,Chemphe,E.N Nkengayi,Robert Batong Hor,James Batong-Hor,Kofi Baffuor Bosompem,Nana Archer Addo,Waltz Clothings Waltzclothing,Nana Nana O'ray,Titus Titus Nana Akomeah,Richard Amartey Lyrix,Richard Amartey,Regis Amaezo,Israel Laryea,Khmani, Lawrence Adjaidoo,Rodger Adjaidoo,McLuis McLouis Josiah,Jerry paemka-Fordjour, Ukomadu Charles,Kofi Jacquaye,Abeku Wilson,..and to all fathers. .keep doing the good work..#gaylesthoughts #realtalk #gaylesgist #gaylesgist