No SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE.

I have always heard this phrase since I could be aware of myself as a woman. .since I started menstruation and knowing the dynamics of womanhood and pregnancy and men and relationships..see where I'm going with this?...as a woman we were taught men wanted one thing and one thing only...we were told they only wanted sex and if they got it they would disappear. .well to some point ,we learnt it was true ,the hard way because young immature men didn't have much to worry about except having fun..so if they showed interest in a woman it was just to get into her pants..men are wired to react to what they see (physical creatures) and so you can't fault them for not sticking around after a few sexual encounters with a woman...on the other hand women are wired to respond to feelings (emotional creatures) so they are drawn to a man depending on how good he makes her feel with his words or actions..having said that human beings have deviced all kinds of theories and practices to protect themselves from being deceived by the opposite gender...
      Religion,Christianity to be precise is one major practice. .it teaches Christians to abstain from sex until marriage..to me that theory has a lot of holes in it..seeing as men need sex like we need air..or food..or anything all humans need to function properly...so if you,a woman deny your man sex it doesn't automatically mean he will love you more or less and certainly doesn't mean if he marries you before you have sex you would have a fulfilling marriage.It doesn't even guarantee he would marry you...a man does what he wants to do and not what a woman tells him to do..if he is in love with you he can change certain things to please you but it will be his choice at the end of the day..not kids,not good food ,not a banging body and certainly not abstinence from sex...men don't need a lot of pushing to have other sexual partners..they are hunters by nature and are always on the prowl..women shouldn't think a good  fulfilling relationship is going to materialize from trying to influence a man with subtle tricks .
       Men are simple creatures...but sadly women are the extreme opposite..we hear men call us crazy all the time!...sucks but it's true...the survival of a relationship doesn't ride solely on sex or lack of,in this case..there's a lot more:knowing the other party's character and how he responds to you and the outside world,whether you are sexually compatible,whether your sickles match or not are just a few things to consider...also people make the mistake of loving people the way they themselves want to be loved but everyone responds to love differently and if you love them wrongly it'll be wasted on them. ..e.g. if you're a touchy-feely lover and your partner is sapiosexual,having intelligent convos stimulates her senses and grabbing at her will not really turn her on whiles he wants to cuddle and neck and so we have to learn to compromise..and be considerate.
     What if after you waited to have sex after marriage and realize your sexual organs are not compatible? I have heard lots of men complain about their women's vagina being too large for them and put it down to them being promiscuous. .it could be the man has a small penis so the fit is not right...some women always complain of their men having huge penis thereby making the sexual encounter uncomfortable for her..these things are really important in a relationship. .if a man with an average penis gets to be paired with a woman with a tight vagina it will be a perfect fit and vice versa. .sex is an art ..like dancing..both parties complement each other to make magic.I have heard of situations where It's a couple's honeymoon it was discovered  the woman had an offensive vaginal odor ..this is a sensitive topic but it must be discussed..most men i have spoken to lament on this issue concerning women.I always thought the vagina had an accepted fishy smell but apparently some women have terrible smells..smells like 'rotten eggs' is the most description I've heard..one guy told me he had to burn his mattress after an encounter with a beautiful woman who's offensive vaginal odor stayed in his room for days and he wanted to cut off his finger which he'd used to 'touch' her..it seems a bit of an exaggeration but  it is what it is..women should be aware of this..bodily hygiene,especially vaginal ,is very important...it can be very embarrassing for the woman.especially  when your partner has to draw your attention to it.. it could be a medical problem but most of the time it is lack of proper hygiene.
       Women should be encouraged to empower themselves with education and knowledge thereby increasing their confidence level rather than making them set themselves up for a huge disillusionment with the no-sex before marriage nonsense..I've heard of stories where women did all of that and still ended up with serious STDs from their supposed faithful partners /husbands..It is good to equip yourself with all the necessary knowledge before making any decision..make informed decisions..abstinence from sex before marriage should be a personal choice not because of some religious influence or otherwise..because we are not spirits,we are living in our human forms now and every decision we make are human and has human consequences....some marriages have ended because the woman found out her husband had a tiny penis after they got married..I mean what can one do with that?..it's not your fault but why hide it from her?..these are  some of the unnecessary surprises and heartaches we can avoid if we move away from all that no-sex before marriage theory..it's all hogwash to me.
       If you want an honest sincere fulfilling relationship/marriage, it should come from both parties and their willingness to make it work..if you practice commitment,communication,respect, consideration you have a shot..always remember you WILL mess up...and when you do, be nice about it and be sincere in your remorse...shalom .